If there is something in your life that you don’t like, what can you do about it? People tend to complain about it, wish it was different, or try to change whatever it is that they don’t like. They often fail to do anything about it, and continue to complain, wish and try.
The truth is that complaining won’t change anything, not will wishing. You must change something if you want things to be different.
A mistake a lot of people make is believing that they are fine as they are and the situation or another person needs to change. It is your life. You are the only person who has the power to change it. You can’t change other people, and you can’t sit around waiting for the situation to change. You have to get up and change it yourself.
Let’s take a look at my favourite metaphor, the one where life is a walk in a garden. You find yourself in part of the garden that you don’t like. Maybe it’s dark and overgrown with weeds. Maybe there is someone there who you don’t like. What do you do?
You could sit in the garden complaining about how overgrown it is. You could ask the other person to leave, but if they don’t want to, they will stay. You could wish you weren’t in that part of the garden. All these options leave you in the same dark overgrown garden.
There are some other choices available to you. You could walk out of that part of the garden and look for a nicer part. You could pull the weeds and tidy up that part of the garden until it is a nice place to be. You could make an effort to be nice to the person you don’t like, maybe there is a nice side to them once you get to know them.
All these options will improve your situation in one way or another, but they all require you to make a change. The longer you sit in the garden waiting for something good to happen, the longer you have to sit in the dark and the weeds. You have to make a change yourself, you have to take an action.
Life may not be a walk in the garden, but the same applies. If you are stuck in a boring routine, you have to change it. Either do something about it, or move away from it to a better place. If you’re dealing with people you don’t like, either get to know them and try to find something about them you do like, or don’t deal with them any more.
Take control of your life. Pick yourself up and do something to make things better. You can make a difference if you just try.